Saturday, September 20, 2008

Bring The Fun Back

Bring the Fun Back
By N.J. Walters

Sex is emotional and serious and earth shattering and…fun!

That’s right. Fun!

It doesn’t always have to be a momentous and important moment in the bedroom. It can be lighthearted and playful. People can bond over shared laughter just as well as they can over a deep, thoughtful experience.

That applies in books just as it does in life. I explored that theme in my latest Ellora’s Cave release, Lily Blossoms. Lily is a divorced woman whose son is now in college. She’s a conservative woman who owns and operates a local flower shop, Lily’s Blossoms. But she has a secret. She’s also writes erotic romance under a pseudonym. Problem is, Lily rarely dates and hasn’t had all that much experience with men.


Enter Carson Granger, a man who’s lusted after Lily for the past five years. When he stumbles onto her secret, he seizes the opportunity to get closer to her. Lily has a list of erotic fantasies she wants to research including sex in public, roses, whipped cream and a striptease. Carson has a few ideas of his own and he’s determined to be the man she experiences each and every item with.

As Lily explores her sexuality, with the help and encouragement of Carson, she begins to blossom as a woman. She soon learns that even shopping for lingerie can be a highly erotic exercise if shared with the right person. She tosses aside her sexual inhibitions and indulges in phone sex. Lily even plans to surprise Carson with a striptease that neither of them will ever forget.

But Lily has more than sexual hang-ups to overcome. She has to get past the fact that Carson is much younger than she is. Like most women, Lily has insecurities that may end up costing her what she’s always wanted. It’s a choice she’ll have to make.

You don’t have to go as far as Lily does in the book, but there are ways to spice up your sex life. Take little steps. Leave your honey notes where he’ll find them during the day. Maybe you might allow yourself to be blindfolded in the bedroom. Your sense of touch and smell and hearing will be heightened and the experience will be exciting for both of you.

Remember, laughter is sexy. Sex isn’t always perfect like it is in the movies and most books. After all, we’re only human. Allow yourself the opportunity to explore and be willing to laugh if it doesn’t work out quite the way you planned. You’ll be glad you did.

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9 comments:

Natasha Moore said...

I love humor in romance. Even my beloved tortured heroes have to be able to laugh. And...um...sex certainly can be funny sometimes.

Great post, NJ!

Anny Cook said...

In my experience, sex is rarely like it is in the books. Mostly its more like doing the laundry... depends on who's helping.

The intimacy is what counts.

N.J.Walters said...

I admire a writer who can put humor in their books, Natasha. It's not easy.

That's the truth, Anny. It's all about the intimacy of the moment.

Sally Painter said...

Great post, NJ. I haven't read Lily yet, but definitely on my TBR short list. (g) I agree about having FUN. That is my motto!

Thank you for being with us and sharing your wonderful books with us!

Tarot By Arwen said...

What a great post, N.J. I so agree with you on this! Sex should be fun. Lovers who can't laugh... how on earth can they stay together through the hard times?

N.J.Walters said...

Thanks to you and Ciana for inviting me, Sally. I'm having a blast writing. And as long as people are willing to read my books, I'll keep writing them!

N.J.Walters said...

Exactly, Arwen. It's humor that will keep a couple together. Humor and honesty are the cornerstones.

But sex ain't bad either. *g*

mamasand2 said...

I think that anyone who hasn't discovered how to put some fun, spontanity, experimentation, and even laughter into their sex life is missing our on a lot.
Maybe your fun and yummy books could to used as a "how to" for them.

Great blog NJ.

sandie

Dani said...

Great post NJ! Lily is on my list to buy when I go to get more books.

You definitely have to be able to laugh at sex because like you said it's not perfect like the movies or books. Somethings bound to happen when you least expect it (and boy don't I know that...LOL).